With social media, people can now easily share moments of their lives with the rest of the world with just a few clicks. Social media sites like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and SnapChat can be a way for individuals to stay connected and expand their network of friends.  You can let everyone know all about your hidden talents, share your inspirational thoughts, and post pictures of that amazing breakfast you’re eating.

The only problem with this, besides the pictures of breakfast, comes from comparing yourself and your life to the millions of others out there.  In reality, you are comparing the “highlight reel” of a person’s life on social media to all the average parts of your daily life.  It’s enough to get a person depressed.  Sure they made that amazing backflip on their bike or are enjoying a thrilling time on a dream vacation in Tahiti, but they crashed their bike 40 times before making the trick work and saved 10 years to take the vacation you think you should be able to afford now.  You just don’t see the average parts of their life.

But beyond the highlight reel, there are going to be people out there who are better than you in something you had prided yourself on and may even have had an even better breakfast than. Looking at that stuff in social media can be a recipe for insecurity.  You may even start feeling down and your confidence drifting.

When you get stuck in this kind of insecurity and self-doubt, it can be harmful to your mental and emotional health. So, if you are feeling insecure and down because your life isn’t as picture perfect as your neighbor in Orange County, a psychologist can help you get a more balanced view an feel good about yourself and your life again with these tips.

Practice Self-Compassion

Are you being too hard on yourself?  We are our own worst critics and this is often the catalyst for insecurity.  You feel sad and unfulfilled because all you see are your struggles, which you don’t often find in other people’s social media posts. However, this doesn’t mean that they don’t say embarrassing things or spill coffee on the carpet just like you. Understanding and recognizing that life is challenging for everyone can help you have compassion for yourself.

This will allow you to see the bigger picture where your strengths, values, and significance play a vital role in overcoming those challenges. Just because you’re not doing the same fun things your social media friends do doesn’t mean your life is inferior to theirs, and once you realize this, it’s easier to feel better about yourself.

Find a Role Model

Instead of obsessing over your friends’ travel photos, try to find people you can look up to. Look for others who have overcome their struggles despite their shortcomings and challenges. Looking up to them will motivate you to get through your problems. They will inspire you to look beyond your imperfections and focus more on the positive aspects of yourself, helping quiet those insecurities.

Remind Yourself Every Day

Insecurities come and go. Your feelings and perspective of yourself change. This is why it’s important to remind yourself on a regular basis that your struggles are shared by others.  The regular reminder starts to develop a more realistic and positive picture of yourself over time.

So don’t fear social media and the idealized pictures it can create.  It offers a lot of good for connecting with others and being inspired to follow your talents and dreams as others do the same.  But, if you find yourself struggling with depression or insecurities, despite following the tips listed above, there are a whole host of Orange County therapy services available to you listed online or in your local newspaper.  If that still isn’t enough, consider a little extra help, such as a therapist, to help you, make some lasting changes, gain perspective, confidence and happiness in your life again.


Social Media Fosters Insecurity: How to Overcome It, PsychologyToday.com